Fresh Start After Divorce Blog

Nov
17

Best Poem Ever!

I just received this beautiful poem in an e-mail and I just had to share it.
Joanie Winberg

~ MAYA ANGELOU

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a youth she’s content to leave behind….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
one friend who always makes her laugh.. and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a feeling of control over her destiny…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD
KNOW…
how to fall in love without losing herself…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend
without ruining the friendship…

EVERY WOMAN
SHOULD KNOW…
when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW….
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust, whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
or a charming Inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
What she can and can’t accomplish in a day… a month…and a year…

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Nov
11

Single Again Women!

Are you single again and looking for a Fresh Start for 2009?

Join Joanie Winberg, your host for the Wellness Getaway Cruise for Single-Again Women on February 6-9, 2009

Early Babe Booking Rate!
Book before November 15 and SAVE $50 per person.
Hurry! Final payment due Friday, November 21, 2008.

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Nov
4

Top Ten Tiger Woods Lessons for Success:

~ An article from Newsweek

1. Expect to win.
Know in your heart that you are a winner.

2. Let your expectations show.
Express no doubts, let your competitors and your friends know that you have none.

3. Work, practice, work, and practice some more.
At the top of his field, he can still be seen hitting buckets of balls until dark - even if he’s just won.

4. Dress and act like a winner.
This is a part of keeping yourself in a winning frame of mind.

5. Have a sense of drama - don’t create it but know it when you see it.
You don’t have to seek out publicity, but know how to accept and use it when it comes to you.

6. Know that there is always room to grow.
Being the best does not mean you can’t be even better.

7. Hang with the winners.
They understand the pressures and situations in which you will find yourself.

8. Put yourself in situations where you are not known as a success.
May be difficult, but this helps you to stay real.

9. Value and protect your free time and do what you enjoy.
The discipline of being a winner needs a safety valve from time to time.

10. Remember those who need help.
Somewhere, someone helped you - be willing to give back.

To learn more about powerful tools to help eliminate harmful
stress and bring more joy and happiness into your life, go to
http://www.HappyWednesday.com

This is Joanie Winberg, The Happy Wednesday Lady
Business/Personal Coach-specializing in Divorce,
Cert. Behavior Consultant, Speaker/Trainer

See you next week!

During and after divorce is a very challenging time in a
person’s life. For more information go to the 24/7 Resource Center- The National Association of Divorce for Women and Children - http://www.FreshStartAfterDivorce.com

Joanie’s passion is to not only survive divorce, but thrive through divorce!

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Oct
28

After Divorce- 7 Ways to Rediscover Your True Passion Tip #5

~ Joanie Winberg
Founder of The National Association of Divorce for Women and Children

Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person’s life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living “out of the habit” of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years.

It is suggested that you use this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. Think of this time in your life as an adventure to explore the real you. If you have worked outside the home combined with being a mom and wife for the last ten, fifteen or twenty years, you may have lost yourself along the way. Certainly not on purpose, but as most women try to do it all as “super” moms, many times we put our own wants and needs on hold to keep our families and jobs running smoothly!

Take a deep breath and let’s start to rediscover your true passions and say…
Will the Real Me Please Stand Up!

Tip#5 What Makes Your Heart Sing?

What really matters to you? What do you feel is your true purpose in life? If someone asked you that question, how would you answer them?

Why is it so important to be clear on what your life’s purpose is? Knowing your purpose, will give you a true sense of who you are and why you were put on this earth. It gives your life direction and helps you make clear and easy decisions concerning that direction. It’s your compass! Without a purpose, can your life be compared to a piece of driftwood? Floating endlessly in whichever direction the tide decides to take it and ending up on any beach with no will of its’ own.

When you live your life based on your purpose you are living in integrity with yourself and are in alignment of who you really are in all aspects of your life - body, mind and spirit. Take this time to focus on what really matters to you. Feel the true passions that exist in your heart and write them down.

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Oct
21

Wellness Getaway Cruise for Single Again Women

WIN A FREE TRIP!
Do you know of a “Single Again” woman who deserves a Fresh Start?

Tell us in 250 words or less why you think your friend deserves to win a FREE 3-night Cruise on the Royal Caribbean’s “Monarch of the Seas” to beautiful Coco Cay and Nassau, Bahamas! If we pick your essay, YOUR FRIEND will win the trip! (If she is registered already she will be reimbursed). Prize includes one paid fare in an Ocean View cabin (tips and beverages not included.) If your friend needs a roommate, one will be assigned to her. Contest ends at midnight on November 15, 2008. Send your story to Joanie Winberg- jw@joanwinberg.com.

Early Babe Booking Rate!

Book before November 15 and SAVE $50 per person. Hurry! Final payment due Friday, November 21, 2008.

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Oct
10

Wellness Cruise for Single Again Women

The Three “Rs” Are Not What They Use to Be!
We are talking about…Renew! Refresh! Relax! Is your mind, body and soul craving the three Rs?

To be the best you can be for your children, your family, and most importantly for you, it is essential to take time for yourself!

Join us for a Wellness Getaway Cruise for “Single Again” Women. A 3- night cruise on “Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas” from Port Canaveral, Florida to beautiful CoCo Cay and Nassau, Bahamas.

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Oct
3

Wanted…Your Story

June Dillinger and Joanie Winberg, co-authors of the book, “The Benefit of the X” meet each other for the first time!

It was June of 2008, that June (from Honolulu) contacted Joanie (from Boston) to co-author a book called The Benefit of the X.

This weekend, they finally got to meet in person. June was on the mainland for business in California and decided to continue her journey eastward to meet Joanie in Boston.

It was a dream come true!

Not only did they work on the book, but they still had time for June to see the Cape Cod Canal and the beautiful Atlantic Ocean.

Joanie (left) and June (right) with the Cape Cod Canal in the background.

This is an opportunity for women and men to write their own story for “The Benefit of the X”- Personal Stories of Gratitude.

* Share your story about how you became the incredible human being you are today because of your experiences from your former marriage.

* Give back through your story by sharing what worked and didn’t work for you and how this can be a benefit for relationships everywhere.

Each feature must provide an element of hope and/or celebration for the reader to feel a connection with. For further inquiry or story submission now, go to www.benefitofthex.net

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Sep
21

After Divorce- 7 Ways to Rediscover Your True Passion- Tip #4

~ Joanie Winberg
Founder of The National Association of Divorce for Women and Children

Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person’s life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living “out of the habit” of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years.

It is suggested that you use this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. Think of this time in your life as an adventure to explore the real you. If you have worked outside the home combined with being a mom and wife for the last ten, fifteen or twenty years, you may have lost yourself along the way. Certainly not on purpose, but as most women try to do it all as “super” moms, many times we put our own wants and needs on hold to keep our families and jobs running smoothly!

Take a deep breath and let’s start to rediscover your true passions and say…
Will the Real Me Please Stand Up!

Tip #4

Life after divorce usually means added responsibilities. If you are a single parent or are now the one responsible for the once shared to-do list, how do you handle it all without being totally stressed out? To start, learn to laugh more, especially at yourself. Learn to let things go and not take life so seriously. Lighten-up! Learn to live in the present moment. Living in the present is where all the “good stuff” in life happens. Yesterday’s worries are gone forever and tomorrow’s to-do list can wait. Think of it this way, when one is missing this moment in time, one is missing out on one’s life.

So how do we live in the present?

If you are feeling stressed, immediately leave your thoughts in your head and take off your blinders. (Blinders similar to what a horse would wear, not allowing it to see from side to side). Start to look around you. I mean really look around you. Look closely at everything. Really focus. Use all your senses! For example, if you are with your children observe them. Cherish their smiles. Give them a hug. See the true beauty of who they are and appreciate them for being a part of your life. You will start to feel your stress subside and a feeling of peace sweep over you.

To be present, no matter where you are, use all your senses to pull you back into the moment. Take time to appreciate all the beauty that already exists around you. You only have to be present to see it!

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Sep
21

After Divorce- 7 Ways to Rediscover Your True Passion- Tip #3

~ Joanie Winberg
Founder, The National Association of Divorce for Women and Children

Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person’s life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living “out of the habit” of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years.

It is suggested that you use this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. Think of this time in your life as an adventure to explore the real you. If you have worked outside the home combined with being a mom and wife for the last ten, fifteen or twenty years, you may have lost yourself along the way. Certainly not on purpose, but as most women try to do it all as “super” moms, many times we put our own wants and needs on hold to keep our families and jobs running smoothly!

Take a deep breath and let’s start to rediscover your true passions and say…
Will the Real Me Please Stand Up!

Tip #3

No regrets! No bitterness!

Holding onto regrets and bitterness will only keep your life from moving forward. Is your inner voice working overtime with all the “what ifs” and “if onlys”? This is normal for a period of time, but ask yourself…are these thoughts serving me or helping me feel better? Will thinking about them over and over again change anything?

To move your life forward, it is important to acknowledge your feelings and to learn from your past experiences to prepare yourself for the next exciting chapter of your life. Yes, there is life after divorce. Learn to let it go! Just, let it go!

A quote from Buddy Hackett, “I never hold a grudge because while I am being angry, the other person is out dancing.”

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Sep
18

After Divorce- 7 Ways to Rediscover Your True Passion- Tip #2

~ Joanie Winberg

Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person’s life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living “out of the habit” of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years.

It is suggested that you use this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. Think of this time in your life as an adventure to explore the real you. If you have worked outside the home combined with being a mom and wife for the last ten, fifteen or twenty years, you may have lost yourself along the way. Certainly not on purpose, but as most women try to do it all as “super” moms, many times we put our own wants and needs on hold to keep our families and jobs running smoothly!

Take a deep breath and let’s start to rediscover your true passions and say…
Will the Real Me Please Stand Up!

Tip #2

Give Yourself a Break

During and after a divorce it is common to have the feeling of grieving, similar to that of the loss of someone. Many women feel the need to stay busy to keep their minds off of this stressful time, such as working overtime or cleaning the house from top to bottom, but let this time also include pampering yourself. Barter with a friend or neighbor to watch your children or leave work a few minutes early so you can stop to sit on a park bench long enough to get that sense of the unique and special YOU. Take this time to experience life even for only 10 minutes without feeling like a wife, mother, sister or daughter… simply you!

Yes, you do deserve to do something special for yourself. It can be as simple as taking a bath or a walk, going to the mall or reading a book with your favorite cup of tea. Give yourself permission - it’s O.K. Remember, the happier you are, the happier your family will be!

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