Five Things Not to Do After Divorce During the Holidays!
November 6, 2009
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As we all know, the holidays can be stressful. If you are a single parent, it may feel even more stressful. Many changes have taken place including the family dynamics and traditions.
But…it doesn’t have to feel that way. Here are five tips of what not to do after divorce during the holidays to enjoy more ease, less stress and have a lot more fun.
5 Things Not to Do!
Don’t let your mind work overtime
During the holidays and after divorce, it is very common for your mind to work overtime with the “what ifs” and “if only” as well as negative thoughts.
When the holiday stress starts – reflect on your contributions to the happiness of others; a smile to a homeless person, a thank you to a colleague, a hug with your children.
Don’t isolate yourself
Especially during the holidays, surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Plan a pot luck gathering in your home and have each person bring a new friend to share the holiday spirit.
Don’t beat yourself up
After divorce, many women have the attitude that “I’m not good enough” and this feeling seems to skyrocket even more during the holidays. Be gentle with yourself! You are unique and special. There is no one else in the universe like you. Prepare to launch your new self with laughter and new intentions.
Don’t let bitterness take over
Turn your energy towards your future. Build a “dream” collage about your future and have your children do the same. Get a pile of magazines, a pair of scissors, and a glue stick. Go for it! Have some fun!
Don’t ignore your intuition
Emotions run very high during the holidays and it may seem difficult to make a decision. Listen to your heart-of-hearts. Be patient with your decisions and understand that choice is by design. Honor your sense of right and wrong and believe in who you have become.
Joanie Winberg
- CEO/Founder of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children
- Business/Personal Coach specializing in divorce
- Host of the Single Again! Now What? Talk Radio Show
www.NADWC.org
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This will be my first Christmas in 31 years with out my husband. He left me in April.. I am having a hard time imaging waking up on Christmas morning with out him and all the magic of the holiday. Our wedding anniversayy is two days after Christmas. It was always a very special time for us. I am making plans but I know I will be alone on Christmas morning.
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