Should divorce not marriage be obsolete?

June 24, 2011

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Should divorce and not marriage be obsolete? This was the question that I asked my wife after we recently attended a three day marriage conference sponsored by the Association of Marriage and Family Ministries. We learned so much that we can share with the couples that we sit down with weekly to help them strengthen their marriages.

However, in addition to these valuable tools, we also truly learned how many in society views marriage. According to the conference sponsors a recent survey reported that 40% of Americans believe that marriage is obsolete. I am not sure who conducted the survey or how large the sample size was, but even if the survey was small, this is an alarming thought to me. To believe that people do not believe marriage matters.

I know that those of us that have been divorced hurt because of what we have gone through, but I still know that marriage not only matters, but it works. Let’s not throw in the towel on marriage because of what is going on in this country. 50% percent of marriages don’t work! That means that 50% percent do work! Let’s learn what it takes to make marriage work and go for it. That is what our E-Courses are all about. The last thing that I want to leave you with is a quote I learned that came from self help guru Zig Ziglar on marriage. This was his response when someone asked him whether or not they married the wrong person:

“ I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person, but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s possible that you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person like the right, you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you marry the right person, and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right person than it is to marry the right person. In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you”

Let’s work on making divorce a thing of the past….. not marriage!

Until next time……



Carlos Phillips
Executive Director
Healed Without Scars Ministries

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